Insincerity

[From the Malfoozaat of Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (MZ)]

A person wants to go to Johannesburg but he sits in a train or a plane bound for Cape Town, fully aware that the train or plane is headed for Cape Town. He then makes dua that Allah Ta’ala takes him to Johannesburg. He will not reach Johannesburg.

The line of his dua was not in line with his effort.

Our foolishness is the same. Our tongues are making du’aa in one direction and our entire bodies are going in the opposite direction. And then we ask as to why our duas are not answered…

For example : There are so many parents that request du’aa from the pious, for the hidayat (guidance) of their children. They complain that their children are disobedient and abusive, or involved in illicit relationships, drugs, alcohol, and all kinds of Haraam. These parents say that they are making so much of du’aa and shedding so many tears over the condition of their children, and they request more du’aa.

However, a cursory glance in their homes, and one will find that those same parents, who are making so much of du’aa and shedding so many tears, are the ones providing so much of Haraam – in the form of the television, music, Haraam video games, indecent, shameless newspapers, magazines and novels, access to the Internet porn sites, etc. – all of which introduce and influence to Fisq (sin) and Fujur (immorality).

…Moreover, many of these parents are the personal chauffeurs of their children : willingly taking them to the cinemas, theatres, to clubs and other places of fitnah.

Rasulullah (SAW) had said : ‘Every child is born in a natural state of goodness. It is his parents who make him into a Jew, Christian or Magian.”

…It is left for us to see what we have made our children.

Furthermore, these children are allowed to do as they please. They are given liberties to keep any person’s company, no matter how bad the company may be; which is another means of their destruction – persuading them to do drugs, take alcohol, visit prostitutes, gamble, steal, etc.

Nabi has said: “A person is on the Deen (way of life) of his friend so everyone of you should look at who he befriends.”

It is also the responsibility of parents to direct their children to good and pious company, and strongly discourage bad company. Allah Ta’ala tells us :

“O People of Imaan, Save yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones…”
[Surah At-Tahreem 66 : 6]

It is an injunction of the Qur`aan Sharief that we make a very concerted effort to direct our children to the obedience of Allah Ta’ala. With teaching them Aqaa-id, Qur`aan, Fiqh, Sunnats and other necessary tenets of Islam which form their Tarbiyyah (the correct upbringing) accompanied by du’aa, Insha-Allah, this will be the means of their Hidayat (guidance) and Istiqaamat (steadfastness).

In the Tafseer (commentary) of this Ayat (verse), Hazrat Ali had stated : “Teach your family acts of virtue.”

Rasulullah (SAW) said : “Each one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock…A man is a ruler in his family, and he will be questioned about those under his care. A woman is a ruler in the house of her husband and she will be questioned about those under her care…”

…Reflecting over all of this, such parents should question the sincerity of their du’aa. Where is the correct effort that should accompany such duas and tears ?

Hazrat Maulana ‘Umar (Rahmatullah ‘alaih) of Palanpur, in India, used to say that we have a small piece of flesh known as the tongue; which is making du’aa… a great deal of time is sometimes spent in du’aa; but the entire body, which is by far, weightier than that little tongue, is going in a very different direction. …How then does a person expect his duas to be answered

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